The world is a better place when we act selflessly.  Why should sex be any different?

When we look back on the history of the world, it’s easy to see where humanity would suffer its greatest tragedies and hardships, selfish ambition.

Whenever people act selfishly and at the expense of others, someone ends up getting hurt.  

Humans often start out with a narrow, self-centered perspective on life… that is until they put themselves in someone else’s shoes.  Think back to the last time that you had compassion on someone else.  What caused you to have compassion? You probably imagined what it would be like if you were going through what that person was enduring.

You probably had a thought along the lines of, “I would never want someone to treat me that way” or “I hope I never know what it’s like to feel like that”.  We recognize that tragedy follows selfish behavior, but healing, hope, redemption, and progress occur through selflessness.

The world becomes a better place when we decide to think about the good of others as more important than our selfish desires.  

So why should it be any different when is comes to sex?

In our society today, our sexuality is all about what makes me happy.  What do I want from this experience?  What do I prefer?  What can this person, clip, or image do for me?  Sex has become another way for me to get what I want.  When we treat sex lightly, we act as if we get what we want when we want it, but the truth is that the act of  sex deeply affects everyone involved whether they realize it or not.

Our culture says that I should be able to sleep with whoever I want, whenever I want, however I want, and wherever I want.  As long as no one gets “hurt” I should go out and “do me” or “get mine”.  Selfishness is accepted when it comes to sex.  Why?

What makes sex any different than the rest of life?  Why do I get to worry about me more than other people in this instance?  Why is it that people are admired and praised for “scoring”, “getting people into bed”, “getting a home run”, or “Laying on the moves”?  We are talking about manipulation here right?  What can I say or do to get this person to do what I want for me?

We are told that when it comes to sex, anything goes.  Anyone who is an adult is “fair game”.  Be that as it may, I don’t consider the girl who has just had her heart broken by a man who has been sexually abusing her as “fair game”.  I don’t see the young man who has all of his friends pressuring him to lose his virginity as “fair game”.

The truth is, we all want to live in a way that benefits others don’t we?  We all want to make the world a better place by being selfless and caring for others.

It shouldn’t be any different when it comes to sex. 

When we have sex, don’t we want to know that the act of sex is what is best for the other person?  Don’t we want sex to be an act of love and understanding?  How can we know if sex is best for this person if we don’t even really know them?

Sex, like everything else, should be something that we do in order to benefit others, and we should expect the same from our partner.  Casual sex and pornography are things that can only be followed by tragedy, because they are powered by selfishness.  If we want to see the world healed, if we want to live in a way that benefits those around us, we should not take sex lightly.

Our bodies are an integral part of who we are. 

Shouldn’t we wait until we devote our entire life to someone before we give our entire self? The reality is… sex is the healthiest and most powerful when it is exclusively between two people in a marriage relationship.

The world is a better place when we act selflessly.  So why should sex be any different?

Written by, The Reality Project Staff